Actor, writer, director, songwriter and a woman who takes control, Julie Delpy, was always certain this life would end badly. When it didn’t, she was confused: wasn’t she at death’s door? Along the way to this expected early demise, there were a few films to make, some attitudes to straighten out, and, as this 2004 profile shows, no prisoners to take. She could write them, act them or direct them off the screen. As for those who think they can push her around, overrule her or